Whether you have one of your own or are looking to learn more about the people you have sex with, there’s no denying that female anatomy can get complicated. After all, when was the last time you heard someone say they were shaving their “vagina” (spoiler alert: that is literally not possible!)?
Let’s set the record straight about female anatomy by answering questions like “do women have a prostate?” and talk about what you can do to turn them on.
Do Women Have a Prostate?
Starting with the question we just posed — do women have a prostate?
Understandably, this could be confusing, with all of the talk about G-spots and P-spots and A-spots. A “spot” is a spot, right? Well, yes and no!
When we talk about “spots,” we’re really talking about super-concentrated “hidden” erogenous zones. While the result of stimulating these “spots” is intense, mind-blowing orgasms, they’re not all present in every body.
Take the P-spot, for instance. The “P” refers to the prostate, a muscular gland unique to people born with male anatomy. The prostate makes part of semen, which is also unique to these bodies.
When it’s stimulated, either with a finger, penis, or prostate massager, people with that body part can have a different type of orgasm than they’re used to — which people have described as a “full-body” experience.
So no, people born with female bodies do not have a prostate. But that’s okay because they have their own “spot” that can bring them a very similar type of pleasure — the famed G-spot!
What Is the G-Spot?
The G-spot has been surrounded by controversy lately — with some scientists arguing it doesn’t exist and others working hard to defend it! We’re firmly in the pro-G-spot camp because how can so many people be wrong about what it feels like to have it stimulated?
The G-spot, which is short for Grafenberg spot — the doctor who “discovered” it — is an area of spongy tissue located a few inches inside the vagina near the front wall. It’s actually part of the clitoral network (yes — there is a huge network, which we’ll talk about later!).
Have you heard of squirting? G-spot stimulation is one of the easiest ways to get there. And even if you don’t experience the fabled female ejaculation, the G-spot is still home to immense and different types of pleasure if you know how to stimulate it right.
How Do You Stimulate the G-Spot?
If it’s your first time exploring the G-spot, we recommend you take some time to get to know it with your fingers! Once you know exactly where it is and what it feels like when it’s stimulated, you’ll be able to branch out and find the perfect sex toy to make your eyes roll back in your head.
Grab some lube and insert a finger or two into your vagina. Position your hand so that the palm faces the front of your body, then make a “come here” motion until you find the right spot. It will feel slightly more “spongy” than the rest of the tissue.
Ready to take your G-spot game up a notch? Check out G-spot-specific vibrators! G-spot vibrators are designed to reach and stimulate that specific area, giving you the power to change up the pattern and intensity of the vibration.
There are also certain positions that you can try that make it more likely that penetration will hit your G-spot just right.
- Spooning position: Lay next to each other like you’re spooning, with the partner being penetrated as the “little spoon.” This position hits the front wall (where the G-spot is) and allows for easy reach-around stimulation of the clit. Plus, it’s super intimate!
- Laying down doggy style: Regular doggy style is hot, especially if you like it a little rough, but this modification makes it far more likely that your G-spot will be hit just right. Instead of having the person with the G-spot on your hands and knees, press your chest onto the bed. The person doing the penetrating will then enter in a downward motion.
- Cowgirl: Very few positions are better than cowgirl, especially when controlling how deep the penetration goes and where it’s hitting. Even just adjusting your position a little can change the entire experience. Try leaning back a little bit and arching your back for extra deep stimulation of your G-spot.
Other Parts of the Female Anatomy
In addition to the G-spot, other parts of the female anatomy deserve attention and respect. Let’s talk about them!
When you think about the word “vulva,” what do you think about it? Whatever part of the body you’re picturing, you’re likely not wrong, but there’s also a whole lot more to it than that! So what is the vulva?
The vulva is all the female genitals you can see from the outside — the clitoris, labia, and openings to the vagina and urethra. But no two vulvas are the same, which is part of the beauty!
Technically, if you’re talking about shaving your “vagina,” you’re talking about shaving the vulva (and the mons pubis — the area of skin where most of your pubic hair grows).
The obvious part of the female anatomy (and the vulva) to focus on when it comes to sexuality is the clitoris. For most women, the only way they can orgasm is by stimulating the clit (hence the clitoral vibrator).
As we said earlier, the clit is so much more than appears from the outside. The part you can see is just the literal tip of the iceberg — the entire clit is about five inches long and shaped like a wishbone.
When you’re turned on, the spongy tissue that makes up the clitoris gets extra swollen and sensitive, which makes it easier to reach and stimulate its thousands of nerve endings. There’s no excuse to miss it; if you’re unsure where your partner’s clit is, just ask them to show you!
The clit is surrounded by the clitoral hood, which is the part that you can get pierced if you’re feeling adventurous (pro tip: some people believe hood piercings can increase arousal even further)! The hood protects one of your most sensitive spots from being constantly stimulated (which sounds like it’s a whole lot more fun than it actually is!).
The labia, also known as the lips, are those fleshy curtains that surround the opening of the vagina. There are two “sets” of labia — the outside ones (the labia “majora”) and the inside ones (the labia “minora”).
As far as labia go, there is a ton of uniqueness between people (and sometimes even between lips!). Some labia are long, and some are short. Some are wrinkly, and some are smooth. They can be any color and may even change as you age! Don’t believe what you see in the movies — there’s nothing wrong with longer labia!
But they’re not just for decoration! The labia also protect the vaginal and urethral openings. But they have an even more important job — spreading lubrication all over the genitals so you can have all the hot, wet, slippery sex you want.
Although the vagina isn’t part of the vulva, it deserves a whole conversation. If penetration is on the table and you have female anatomy, you will likely use the vagina (we’ll discuss the other option next) — whether that’s with your fingers, a penis, or a dildo.
You might be surprised to learn that most of the vagina doesn’t have a lot of nerve endings! Most of them (around 90%) are located just around the opening of the vagina, which is why penetration can be uncomfortable if you’re not properly aroused and lubed up.
We also want to take a second to dispel a myth — having sex does not “stretch out” the vagina! You can have sex with the most well-endowed people or use the biggest, thickest dildos, and your vagina will stay the same wonderful, wet, warm center of pleasure it has always been.
Even though we’re talking about female anatomy, we’d be remiss not to mention the other option for sexy fun — the anus!
Listen, we’re not saying that you have to explore anal play. To each their own! But if you’re open, trying out a little butt stuff can expand your horizons and introduce you to a new set of experiences. The anus has almost as many nerve endings as the clitoris, so any stimulation here can feel just as good as “traditional” intercourse!
In the End
Do women have a prostate? No, but they do have plenty of other pleasure centers that can be used to have toe-curling, mind-blowing sex if you know how to touch them the right way.
Regardless of what body you were born into or who you prefer to have sex with, Simpli Pleasures is here to make every sexual encounter as amazing and hot as you deserve it to be.